Sep 3, 2010

NYC and the word Dating

What is it with New York and "Dating".
I just don't get it. If your seeing someone, in the Big Apple, for more then a month your still... dating.
I have the feeling that New Yorkers are afraid to use the word relationship.
I don't know any other city with so many singles, all walking around and searching for the perfect lover!
Dating in New York is also much more difficult, exhausting, and time-consuming than dating in Ames.
In Belgium it's just so much easier:
You go on a date, go for dinner. Meet again for another date... then maybe kiss and after you've slept together and still seeing each other for more then 2 weeks your a couple. Just as simple as that. But in NYC that's a NO-NO. Why always the hustle?
Are people afraid to use the word lover? Boyfriend? Girlfriend?
Or are they just afraid to start a serious relationship with someone?
I think everything started with Sex And The City. When Carrie and her girlfriends started the show everybody was in LOVE with them and they were always talking about dating and having sex and blablabla... And for the these girls it was oh-so difficult to find the perfect boyfriend.
I think that many people still think the way they did/do in NYC.
Anyway... what I wanna say is that it just freaks me out that when your seeing someone for more then 2 or 3 weeks you're still not sure if the person your sleeping with is your Boyfriend or Girlfriend or just another date your dating in that big city full of singles.

15 comments:

  1. I´m the first one, This blog is nice .

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  2. aaww are you "dating" someone? hahah who's the lucky girl/boy?

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  3. I don’t know hat is wrong? In France it seems difficult as in New York I think that you must guess what the other person feelings…
    Besides I think that here “most of the times” girls have to begin the relationships… That is pretty strange for a girl from Latin-America!!! French guys are freaky!!!
    When I was in Belgium “the boys were normal” I mean they tell you when they like you or when they don’t! Latin-American people have a different point of vu concerning relationships and family…
    They marry early and have nice families most of the time…
    How ever here it seems that is very strange to get married or even a simple relationship I mean everybody seems afraid of loving someone! My last boy friend told me that for him loving was just like losing something in him that it make him fell weird…
    That made me sad not just because I thought that he was the right person and then I saw how afraid he felt about his feelings! I think that the perfect person doesn’t exist but you love someone because of different thinks that are single at him/her and it doesn’t mean a lost of time or what ever…
    Loving someone is complicate but not a waste of time! The fact is that people doesn’t understand what is love they look for someone perfect that doesn’t exit!!! Sometimes is better not to analyse your feelings and just let it be!!
    When I like someone I love to discuss with the person and then to se I if he is right or not! Then you decide if he can be a friend or a relationship/ dating???
    I mean that you must be sure of what you want in my case I would like to be an easy girl or to force someone to with me for ever or as long I want…
    You must be able to respect the other and being respect, you must be able to love someone and feel complete! Be able to have friend and dating with out fear just knowing that you don’t make you/them any harm anyone because everything returns…
    Sdt. Pepper

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  4. Well I think everybody wants commitment, but people don't wanna get hurt, so they try to pretend that they are the one who doesn't want commitment. But everybody thinks like that... so we end up playing games all the time, like: "I'm not gonna send you a message first". But I think it's not a NY thing. I feel that in Lisbon too. I really believe that it's a normal thing everywhere...

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  5. New Yorkers are all looking for love and yet they're all so afraid of it... Ugh....

    Totally agree with you Ceesie!

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  6. Cherry Cherry, Boom Boom
    GaGa

    Boy we've had a real good time
    And I wish you the best
    On your way
    Eh, Eh

    I didn't mean to hurt you
    I never thought we'd fall
    Out of place
    Eh, Eh

    I had something that I love long long
    But my friends keepa' tellin' me taht something's wrong

    Then I met someone
    And eh! There's nothing else I can say

    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    I wish he never looked at me that way
    Eh eh, eh eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh

    Not that I don't care about you
    Just that things got so compliquées
    Eh eh

    I met somebody cute and funny
    Got each other and that's money eh
    Eh, eh

    I had something that I love long long
    But my friends keepa' tellin' me taht something's wrong

    Then I met someone
    And eh! There's nothing else I can say

    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    I wish he never looked at me that way
    Eh eh, eh eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh

    I had something that I love long long
    But my friends keepa' tellin' me taht something's wrong

    Then I met someone
    And eh! There's nothing else I can say

    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh
    I wish he never looked at me that way
    Eh eh, eh eh
    There's nothing else I can say
    Eh, eh, eh, eh

    Eh eh, cherry cherry, boom boom

    Eh eh, eh eh
    Oh, yeah
    All I can say is eh eh

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  7. Sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy New york Cityyyyyyyyyyyyyy. Just do it.

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  8. Hmm ,I wonder is Ceesie fucks in the first date.Lol just kidding.Don't delete my comment D:
    You know,cesar,americans are just different to europeans ,here in America is just more complicated.And you know the reason?Me either.

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  9. Dear Mr. Cesar,

    It seems in New York people are either in couples or perpetually single like me. I think that there is something I find about the level of self involvement that people have that perhaps makes it hard. It is a bit like the Candace Bushnell sex in the City where in the book at the start, she has a good time with this guy, but then he becomes involved with something at work and she never sees him again. In this way people don't have the best manners either. I also think that in actuality the new technologies, the email and the cell phone and the texts really make avoiding people easier and it is just awfully hard. I have been single for years, but that is partly my fault. I sense that people are really afraid of being open and honest with other people and it is a very materialistic city and very much based on the appearance of what one is doing. I do not find that it is an especially romantic place in many ways.

    Daniel

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  10. Bla-bla-blue-bla-bla...
    So many poor, unhappy and unlucky people. Troubles.

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  11. All we have to see
    Is that I don't belong to you
    And you don't belong to me
    Freedom.

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  12. I just moved to Chelsea/Gramercy area and it makes so sad to know its just even hard to date someone. Right now its just hard to meet people and sad to know that people you might be interested may have alot of reservation about dating. WHY NYC lol, oh well i am still young so i guess oh well.

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  13. an interesting theory, your blog is great, greetings from Spain

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  14. I think that different people have different opinions on relationships,but what my teacher told me was that some people want to be with people they like/love,but are unsure if they are the right type,so they first go on pre-relationship dates,and if they are really sure they want to be with the person,then they acknowledge them as their partner.If not,they could still remain as friends!:)

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